“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.”
Nobody says it better than Colbert.
Keep up your awesome, Boston.
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here’s the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling. (via aseptien)
I ran for me.
I ran for the words that I can not express.
To find the answers,
but more so to find peace.
I don’t want to be bitter.
I don’t want to be upset.
I just want to be.
So I ran and continued to run.
And then when it felt like I could run no longer,
I ran harder.
I ran through the pain.
I don’t know if I will ever find the answers I am looking for.
I do know that I will continue to run.
I may have written this over two years ago but I find it so relevant, especially today.
Words. One of my true loves.
Never underestimate the power (and fun) of an interesting vocabulary.
|—||Valerie Harper (via champagnetoasts)|
Tumblr Buddy you are the best! Yes Brad and I are still in the same house but you don’t need to send me anything! I can’t wait to find out who you are!
This is how I spent my Friday night. These ladies bring so much love and laughter to my life!
*These are only three of my four nieces!
Obsessing Over: All the laundry that is clean but
sitting piled on our guest room bed.
Working On: Trying to get organized and back on track now that the holidays are over.
Thinking About: The race I signed up for the morning of Super Bowl Sunday but now have to cancel since I totally forgot it was my husbands birthday weekend (insert facepalm).
Anticipating: Our trip to Vegas in less than two weeks.
Listening To: Mentalist playing on the TV in the background.
Drinking: Water and a diet A&W Root Beer
Wishing: The laundry on the guest room bed would just fold its self!